During my high school and university days, it was the dawning of the Age of Androgyny. There were unisex jeans stores all over the place, along with the boutiques selling incense and Indian-print bedspreads, tops and dresses. It was an age not so much of gender diversity as gender uniformity. Everyone who had hair wore it long. Afros were a thing regardless of the colour of your skin. So was hair so straight you had to iron it regularly unless it was naturally perma-press.

Today marks the end of a mostly-virtual Pride Week. Yesterday I went on a bit of a rant at the Royal Canadian Navy over its RIMPAC exercise but today I'll highlight a couple of the more progressive measures they are taking towards inclusivity. Like their real-life Pride Parade on the canal:

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/ottawa/boat-pride-parade-rideau-canal-ottawa-1.5705150?cmp=rss

And their move towards more gender-inclusive job titles, still controversial in some quarters:

https://www.cbc.ca/news/politics/royal-canadian-navy-seaman-sailor-1.5702842

But is there still room for gendered spaces in all this would-be broad-mindedness? Personally I hope so although if I were active on social media, I'm sure I'd face a flaming Twitter-storm of protest for that stance!

Some of the most positive environments I've been in in my life have been female-only. Like CGIT, like the Ottawa Women's Centre and the Consciousness-Raising group I briefly participated in during the mid-70s. Or like the Women's Committee of my union local at Labour Canada. Since I worked in a predominantly female occupation, there were also a number of all-female job environments I worked in too.

In many cultures, my own included, girls and boys were, and to a considerable extent still are treated differently. Certainly those of us growing up as girls and boys in Canada were not treated AS differently from each other as we would have been in some other parts of the world, but the differences were definitely there and have shaped our lives accordingly. For that reason, it's difficult if not impossible to ascertain precisely where nature leaves off and nurture kicks in when looking at sex-linked differences.

At this end of the twenty-first century, we are gradually adding concepts like gender identity and gender expression to our institutional framework of human rights. For the most part, I see this as positive. But it does bother me when I sense that we are no longer allowed to celebrate our differences and be our authentic selves. Take, for example, someone who dares to state publicly that trans-women are not quite the same as cis-women. I for one strongly believe that, even though (or perhaps precisely BECAUSE) trans-women are very much a part of my day to day reality. But I'm just a private individual, not a high-profile woman like, say, J.K. Rowling, who recently stood up for what she believed in by returning a human rights award she had received:

https://www.cbc.ca/news/entertainment/rowling-award-return-1.5704196?cmp=rss

And what of gender expression? If someone who is male opts to wear a dress or any kind of garment or make-up or other items the culture regards as feminine, is that really gender expression? Or is it just personal expression, wearing what they feel comfortable in, or whatever?

And to go even farther out on a limb, what about the racial equivalents to these gendered categories?
Race has in recent years been acknowledged to be quite an artificial construct. You can't necessarily peg it conclusively by skin colour alone, or by any other overt quality that I know of. So why is it considered so appallingly racist and culturally misappropriating for an ostensibly white person to publicly appear in blackface or brown face, while men in dresses or drag queen story times are celebrated as examples of alternative gender expression? What about a black person like, say, Venus Williams, bleaching her hair? What about using skin lighteners? Do we need categories for racial identity and racial expression?

We should dare to ask some of these currently unaskable, politically incorrect questions because only then will we begin to address them and move towards a truly inclusive society.

Pride

Aug. 19th, 2016 07:32 pm
What are you proud of? Are you proud of your sexual orientation or your gender identity?

My mother used to say that the notion of gay pride was just plain wrong-headed. She thought it was like being proud of having blue eyes or red hair - something you were born with but basically had no say over. And frankly I think she had a point. Doesn't it make more sense to be proud of something you've actually achieved through hard work, self-discipline and perseverance, all while staying true to your core values and ideals? The GLBTQ activists are constantly reminding us that being gay or transgendered is NOT a choice. If it's just destiny, then how is it something to be proud of?

The best explanation I can offer is that those in the community want to make it known that they're not ASHAMED of who they are or whom they're attracted to. And then, exaggerating somewhat for the sake of emphasis, they say they're actually PROUD of these aspects of themselves. I certainly agree that it's legitimate for them to be proud of having stood up for and struggled for, and in many cases won the battle for basic human rights and anti-discrimination laws, and for having fought the battles in the courts of public opinion, whether in their own country or on the international front. And I hasten to add that the struggle is not yet over, although some significant battles have been won.

Do events like pride marches actually make a difference?

Yes, in that they're very visible. Yes, in that some high-profile people often take part: our Prime Minister, our Premier, various other politicians and entertainers, regardless of whether they themselves are gay or gender-variant. But for those who are still in the closet, or who have emerged from the closet but don't particularly want to draw attention to themselves, who just want to blend in and go about their day-to-day activities free of constant staring and regular or occasional harassment of themselves and their families... well, I'd say not so much. Things are changing, at least in our part of the world, but changes in social and personal attitudes can take a generation or two. And the changes aren't really linear; I don't even think the pendulum analogy is all that accurate.

I think the main thing is to foster free and open debate and discussion and exchange of ideas, moving beyond the bland and often the politically correct as well. Can this be done with respect and integrity and without censorship or will the indignant accusations of cultural misappropriation and harassment and libel and slander be constantly rearing their ugly heads? The thought police, I think, are still very much with us.
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