This week's donation goes to the CHEO Telethon:

https://www.cheotelethon.com/home

The Children's Hospital of Eastern Ontario holds a telethon once a year. Usually there are also lots of in-person events, the big one being the Teddy Bears' Picnic complete with B.A.S.H. tent for sick and injured teddy bears, food, face painting, fortune telling and plenty of parkland to enjoy. I used to have a purple HEEO (CHEO in French, at least in those days) sweatshirt with a teddy bear on it that I bought at the office as part of their fundraising activities there, but that of course is long gone now.

This year, with most of the traditional large fundraising events off the table, various local celebrities have been shaving their heads or dyeing their hair in vibrant hues to raise additional funds. I hope it works, as the amount raised in 2020 was down substantially from previous years, just at a time when children and youth are in the greatest state of crisis. Demands on CHEO's services have never been greater and the aftermath of Covid-19 in terms of mental health and clearing the backlog of non-Covid priorities stands to keep CHEO's workload higher than ever.

CHEO was not around when I was a kid but I do recall that I was somewhere in my teens when plans were in the works for it. I even volunteered for a few shifts at a booth at the Ex, to provide some general information and hand out a few pamphlets. I think there was a small-scale model of what the finished structure would look like and where the various services would be located. It's all so long ago but it did mean that I got free passes to get into the Exhibition grounds!

I'd still like to see an equivalent Quebec institution for the Outaouais, and this may happen yet. In April 2020, for example, I wrote about the Charlotte Mantha endowment fund, dedicated to building a Gatineau children's hospital:

https://blogcutter.dreamwidth.org/tag/charlotte+mantha+endowment+fund

I've been checking the Gatineau Hospital Foundation's website from time to time to see what projects are in the works and it does look as if Hull will have a new hospital in the next few years, though not solely dedicated to paediatrics. We shall see.
There's a move afoot in Canada to have a dedicated 911 line for suicide prevention, similar to the 988 service offered in many parts of the U.S. Clearly suicide is not a new problem, but as mental health worsens amid pandemic restrictions, concern is growing proportionately. Here's what Crisis Services Canada have to say on the matter:

https://suicideprevention.ca/COVID-19

And here is a list of crisis lines, not just for Canada but for other countries as well:

https://thelifelinecanada.ca/help/call/

In the U.K., my brother used to volunteer with The Samaritans - I'm guessing the closest local equivalent would be the Distress Centre, although we also have a Kids' Help Phone and various special-purpose services such as those geared to the LGBT+ community.

Suicide, whether contemplated, averted or achieved, also features widely in literature and film. Many will be familiar with the 1946 holiday film classic "It's A Wonderful Life" in which George Bailey decides that he does want to keep living after all, once his guardian angel has shown him what his world, as he's lived it, would have been like if he'd never been born.

The book I'm reading now, The Midnight Library, offers another spin on the idea. Thirty-five year-old Nora Seed has decided to end it all. Then we get brief flashbacks to what happened nineteen years before she reached that decision, then 27 hours before, 9 hours, five hours, and so on, until she comes to write her suicide note.

At the zero hour, she find herself in a library, with a librarian who reminds her of her school librarian from 19 years ago. But this is no ordinary library - it's a library between life and death. All the books in it are the story of her life. But that doesn't mean they are all copies of the same book.

Then there's The Book of Regrets. It's a very heavy book. Well, wouldn't you expect that someone who had decided to end it all would have plenty of regrets about how she's lived her life?

So she picks a regret. Her cat died and she regrets that she didn't look after him better. She asks the librarian for the version of her life in which she kept the cat inside so he couldn't get run over. She lives that life for the next dozen pages or so until she finds herself getting dissatisfied with that alternate version of her life too ... at which point she finds herself back in the library, where she can ask the librarian for a different version of her biography. And so it goes.

Well, I guess when you get to a certain age, you're bound to have a number of "should'ves" in life. Matt Haig's book The Midnight Library adds a few layers of complexity to the storyline of those feel-good Christmas movies. I mean sure, if George Bailey had never been born, his brother would have drowned instead of becoming a war hero. The druggist would have poisoned a bunch of patients. Then again, maybe his wife would have become the Librarian of Congress and Annie the maid would have been a Black Lives Matter heroine with her picture on the ten-dollar bill. You never know.

Still, the book is feel-good in some ways. It might make you feel better about not having done some of the things that you think you should have done. I'm not sure that it will prevent any suicides, but that's a pretty tall order for any book. And this one is definitely worth a read.
In the midst of a pandemic, are we all becoming shadows or virtual versions of our former selves?

Let's hope not! But I think a lot of the uproar about mental health comes down to the fact that life doesn't feel real any more. We don't feel we can be our authentic selves. We're always second-guessing ourselves, looking over our shoulders, unsure of what we can or cannot do, of what we may or may not do. We've lost our road-maps and our guidebooks for life as we thought we knew it. The threat of climate change and the twice-yearly clock-changing also make it difficult to gain and keep our bearings.

Humans are not machines or computers, even though we are living so much of our lives online at the moment. We shouldn't let our human qualities of imagination, judgement, critical thinking and humanitarianism - or even some of the more negatively perceived human qualities - atrophy, just because we have to do a lot of things in ways the machine can "interpret" or at least respond to.

I was encouraged to read this opinion piece in yesterday's paper, urging students and their families not to discount the value of a broad, liberal arts education:

https://ottawacitizen.com/opinion/dolansky-why-the-humanities-are-a-good-choice-for-university-bound-students

Or this curriculum document out of Wales, geared to learners at all levels, where I learned a new word which beautifully expresses the concept I think is lacking in our lives at the moment - cynefin:

https://hwb.gov.wales/curriculum-for-wales/humanities/

The learn.org site draws a distinction, perhaps rather arbitrary, between "humanities", focusing on our history and human heritage as opposed to "humanistic studies", which it sees as envisioning the future:

https://learn.org/directory/category/Humanities_and_Liberal_Arts/General_Liberal_Arts_and_Humanities/Humanities_and_Humanistic_Studies.html

Then there's "humanism" which also seems to mean different things to different people. For some, it's an alternative to faith, a belief that yes, this (life here on earth) IS all there is, and it's up to us to make the most of it and build a better world together. As an example, here's the UK Humanists' site:

https://humanism.org.uk/about/

I still love that word "cynefin" and the idea of belonging, comfort, habitat and all the other connotations it embodies.
This week's donation goes to CAPSA, which is an acronym for Community Addictions Peer Support Association:

https://capsa.ca/recovery-day-ottawa/

Today, September 25, is Recovery Day Ottawa, a day devoted to the support of those grappling with addictions and substance abuse issues.

Mayor Jim Watson has also proclaimed today Dave Smith Day. Dave Smith died recently and his humanitarian legacy in making Ottawa a better place for disadvantaged residents is well known. He is perhaps best known for the Dave Smith Youth Treatment Centre.

Young people, regardless of personal or family circumstances, are typically dealing with a lot of growing pains even if their physical and mental health is comparatively good and stable. Usually, they are forming new bonds with people outside of their immediate family and household. But this process of developing new relationships with others is hindered considerably by pandemic rules and conditions. They may turn to alcohol, cannabis or opioids to dull their pain or compensate for the lack of positive interpersonal interactions with others.

Fortunately, many young people have a rich online life, much of it positive.

Recovery Day will be celebrated virtually today between the hours of 3 and 8PM. Details are available on the CAPSA website.
Today's donation goes to Mental Health Research Canada, a project aimed at "taking the pulse" of mental health across Canada:

https://www.canadahelps.org/en/charities/mental-health-research-canada-recherche-en-sante-mentale-canada/campaign/getting-a-pulse-on-mental-health-in-canada/

I've been eyeing this one as a worthy project ever since I dreamed up the idea of philanthropic Phridays. But the reason I finally donated this week was that I noticed that the campaign is due to end early next week. And assuming their site is updated regularly, it looks as if it it will wrap up its fundraising efforts far short of its goal.

Will they extend their campaign? Or give up on their idea of embarking on the project at all? Or perhaps there are some likely sources of substantial government or institutional research grants?

I hope they don't abandon their plans altogether because with all the fears and uncertainties surrounding this virus - the way it's hitting younger and younger demographics just as they're getting back to school and work, the possibility of a second wave as colder weather and flu season roll around, the ongoing quest for a safe and effective vaccine - I think it's important to monitor the mental health of all of us, not just those we know to be battling mental health demons.
I've devoted a fair bit of space in this blog to putting myself in the shoes of people I see as most disadvantaged or profoundly affected by the pandemic. Today I'm going to indulge in a little self-absorbed navel-gazing about how this whole thing is affecting me personally.

My income has not really been affected. Since I'm retired with a defined-benefit pension, the money continues to flow into my account at the end of every month. My expenses are generally lower than they were. Fixed expenses are roughly the same but discretionary expenses are down. I don't shop (except online) unless I have to, I don't eat out any more, I don't buy new clothes, I don't travel. I don't go to plays, concerts or movies. I do perhaps spent a bit more on books than I did before, particularly with libraries being closed. But a lot of the reading I'm doing is free - or perhaps in accounting terms a "sunk cost" - as I visit or revisit the books that have languished on my shelves over the years.

I'm baking a little more than I used to - muffins and cookies and cake to go with strawberries and cream. I try to get out for a walk each day and to do a short daily exercise routine at home, but some days, especially during a heat wave, I don't get very far. And without anywhere much to go, I'm doing less in the way of incidental activity (like walking to and from bus stops or walking around downtown) than I used to before lockdown.

As for online activity, there's still this blog and there's still e-mail and banking and a bit of online shopping, plus following "Type M" and listening to the occasional podcast or watching the odd short video. But I haven't embraced Zoom or online meetings at all.

The cat seems unusually restless and needy these days. She'll suddenly decide she has to see what her humans are up to and comes into the room meowing for attention. It's quite entertaining during the day, less so at 3AM. And my sleep patterns are definitely disrupted, regardless of any feline intervention. Sometimes I lie awake for hours despite being tired, restless with creaky joints while the sounds of street-racing or fireworks or other sounds seep in the windows along with the cooler night air. At other times, I'll drop off to sleep quite easily but wake up again in the wee hours of the morning, sometimes plagued by the memory of anxiety-tinged dreams. Last night was a fairly good night - I took a bit of time to drop off but then slept pretty well until the morning, when I drifted in and out of sleep until the 8 o-clock news.

They say it's important to establish some sort of routine, even though it's inevitably going to be a bit different from your pre-lockdown schedule. And we do have that. But part of the problem is that the things I want to do or get done can only be done at certain times of the day, and not necessarily when I'm at my best. For example, yesterday was grocery-shopping day. The best time to do that is the first hour the grocery store is open, which has been designated as seniors' shopping hour. Our local Loblaws opens at 7 AM. So we set out from here soon after 7:00 and that was OK. But the Pet Valu store next door doesn't open till 9 AM and in pre-pandemic days, that was our main source for Greenies and our usual brand of kitty litter, which are not available at the Loblaws store. Then there are other stores we shop at which don't open until 11 AM, and some of them only on certain days of the week. So rather than getting the shopping all done in one fell swoop (which seems to be what we've been urged to do, at least in the early stages of lockdown), we have to precision-plan our time.

Anyway, I'm muddling along, my health is OK and I know I'm much more fortunate than many. Some days I feel hopeful, other days I feel grouchy and pessimistic. The aftermath of the pandemic may be more daunting than any of the "waves" and it may not be over even when it's over.

But reopening phase 3 is just days away. Onward and outward, I say!
Today's donation goes to the Crossroads Children's Mental Health Centre, geared to mental health support for Ontario youngsters up to the age of twelve:

https://crossroadschildren.ca

The mental health of children, whose social and educational lives have been turned upside down by the ongoing pandemic, has been very much in the news lately with plans for a return to school in the fall currently being developed. Six months is a long time in the life of a child, and that's how long most of them will have been shut off from school life when September rolls around.

Anxiety, depression, emotional problems, loss of basic academic, language and social skills - those are just some of the issues we as a society are going to have to deal with as we prepare to get kids back to school and other routines of daily life. And the adults facilitating this transition have their own challenges to cope with too.

With patience, persistence and targeted but flexible support measures, we'll get there. It won't be easy and it won't be cheap. But children - and people in general - can be surprisingly resilient and we can't afford not to try.
I have long been a fan of Bridgehead and the whole notion of fair trade. I remember when they had a shop on Sussex Drive and an annual catalogue of fair trade items you could order. I was even a regular customer of the Bridgehead coffee shop on Wellington Street where the Abdirahman Abdi incident occurred. It was a pleasant place to while away the time, with its comfy furniture and its corner with toys for the kids, and a good selection of city and neighbourhood newspapers.

The incident occurred nearly four years ago but has waxed and waned in the public spotlight ever since. It's definitely in "waxing" mode right now with all the anti-racism protests following the brutal killing of George Floyd by a white police officer in Minnesota, and then a march this past Saturday specifically organized by the Justice for Abdi Coalition. Today on CBC's Ottawa Morning, former Bridgehead CEO Tracey Clark was interviewed along with anti-racism advocate Farhia Ahmed. Clark offered an almost grovelling mea-culpa-style apology for her reaction to the incident four years ago:

https://www.cbc.ca/player/play/1754840643742

But personally, I don't think she really had anything to apologize for. Here's the CBC news item from four years ago - I'll let you be the judge:

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/ottawa/bridgehead-owner-speaks-abdirahman-abdi-1.3708589

The thing is, there are a lot of sets of rights to be considered here. Abdi was a black man with a mental illness and and apparently a regular customer of the Wellington Street Bridgehead coffee shop. But whether he was in control of his actions or not, he was also physically strong and capable of considerable violence - as was clearly in evidence when he harassed and sexually assaulted at least half a dozen women. Could he have been treated more humanely? Yes. Did he deserve to die? No. But other people have rights too!

What about the women he assaulted? If even one of them had opted to pursue a complaint to the full extent of the law, we might be hearing a far more complex and convoluted story than what we're getting today. Not that I blame them - we have a long and not-so-proud history of painting female victims and survivors as guilty parties! I myself could tell my own story, though it's far less dramatic or traumatic. Back in the 1970s, a black security guard at the National Gallery of Canada (when it was still in the Lorne Building on Elgin Street) made a pass at me when I was there on a Thursday evening. I was wandering about the modern art when he asked something like "Are you staying at a hotel?" I said no and moved away to another artwork. Then I felt someone put a hand on my hair and shoulder. Startled, I looked around and he asked, "Are you scared?" "No," I said and escaped into a nearby stairwell. Fortunately that was the end of it. I did consider making a formal complaint but had the feeling that particular with him being black, my complaint would be construed as racist. And being busy with schoolwork and the like, it frankly felt like too much bother.

So anyway, my biggest concern would be for the women he assaulted. But I also feel for the staff and the other customers in the coffee shop. And also the police officers, who have a difficult job to do, are required to make split-second decisions and lack effective tools and social and community resources - and quite likely an adequate amount of training and education - to properly handle confrontations involving serious mental health problems.

So before we come out with knee-jerk demands to eliminate "police brutality" by "defunding" the police, let's take a cold hard look at how we treat ALL segments of society, whether that's black folks, women, the mentally ill, the poor or anyone we think of "different" or "other".

That's how things look to me. Am I missing something here?
Today I'm taking a mental health day. I've been trying over the course of this series to donate to a variety of types of causes. So far, some have been devoted to the physical health concerns that arise during a pandemic but this is the first time I've picked one that is specifically geared to mental health.

I've witnessed a sea change in the prevailing attitudes towards mental health over the course of my lifetime. Most of the changes have been welcome ones, occurring in tandem with changing attitudes towards women, feminism, sexual orientation, gender roles, identity and expression.

I looked at several contenders for a mental health charity but Salus was the one which won out this time, mainly because it focuses on a broad array of services to adults in the Ottawa area with serious mental health issues:

https://www.salusottawa.org/

Other contenders were Crossroads, geared to supporting children and youth and their families; services based at the Royal Ottawa; college- and university-based services focusing on the needs of students who have seen campus life totally disrupted; and mental health research organizations looking at the impact of pandemics on the mental health of specific groups or of the population at large.

To a great extent, I think we have succeeded in reducing the stigma previously associated with mental illness. Mental disorders are less likely today to be seen as shameful family secrets or signs of an innate character flaw (the "bad seed" idea). But I think maybe we still tend to draw a false dichotomy between "clinical" or "chemical" mental illness on the one hand and "situational" mental illness on the other. Sometimes they occur together and sometimes not - but that doesn't necessarily mean they are unconnected. Some people may just be more prone to depression and schizophrenia and definitely need pharmaceutical interventions at times but if life has just handed you a barrel-load of bitter lemons, might that not also lead to chemical changes in your brain?

Similarly, treatment can - and indeed should - involve self-care and manipulating the situation as well as seeking intervention in the form of pharmaceutical and other professional treatment. Personally, I have always wanted to manage my own health care, whether physical or mental, as far as possible. I've never been the type to rush to the doctor or psychologist or other counsellor at the first sign of a problem. Self-reliance is definitely good to have during a pandemic when in-person consultations with professionals are not always possible.

Maybe one positive outcome of this pandemic will be a more holistic view of patient care?
Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Or somewhere in between? And how has that influenced your reaction to measures imposed as a result of the COVID 19 epidemic?

I would definitely place myself on the introvert side of the spectrum. I value my alone-time, although I'm not a total recluse. And I don't like crowds at the best of times. So theoretically, I guess I should be one of those best-placed to weather the social distancing and all the various extraordinary measures dictated by these extraordinary times. Who, then, would be the worst-placed in terms of coming through the ordeal with minimal psychological and emotional harm?

Well, presumably the extroverts, the social butterflies, the life-of-the-party types. We see these folks in all demographics, of course, but in my experience they are most prevalent amongst youth, let's say those in the 15-to-25 age group. Roughly speaking, the upper tier of the post-millennial generation.

Most of these people are becoming more independent, forging connections with people outside their immediate family, getting involved in academic projects, extracurricular activities, finding jobs (whether paid or volunteer) and embarking upon careers. Then along comes this virus and suddenly they are told to go back home and hole up with those people who are their nearest, though not necessarily their dearest - one or more parents, stepparents, siblings and so on. Even if they have their own place, such as an apartment or a room in a university residence, they may well have to vacate those, either because it's been decreed by the university administration or because they are no longer drawing the wages that had till now allowed them (if only barely) to maintain the lifestyle to which they had become accustomed.

When we talk about disaffected youth, delinquency and petty vandalism, gang activity and other serious crime, substance abuse, bullying, suicide or even just kids loitering in malls or glued to their screens - the point usually raised by community groups and public officials is that these young people are bored, they have nothing to do, we need to put recreational programs and homework clubs and youth leadership opportunities in place. We need scout jamborees and Me to We events! But now, in the face of emergency, it is these very groups and officials who are closing these things down.

The saving graces, I suppose, are (a) that young people are likelier than older cohorts to be in relatively robust PHYSICAL health; and (b) that online activity by youth, including texting and social media, can be used for good as well as for evil - they can turn on their devices, tune in to what's going on around them, and drop IN virtually, in a good way.

It's sex and drugs and rock and roll (and other forms of music too) for a different generation. None of the aforementioned things is good or bad in and of itself - it's a question of how it's used.
In today's blogcutter café, I'm going to tackle the question: Is pet ownership a right? Already I can almost hear your snorts of derision. But bear with me.

First, a brief aside. I'm using the term "pet-owner" as a kind of shorthand here. I'm well aware that we don't truly "own" another living creature.

Numerous studies suggest that pet ownership is THE most important factor in determining life satisfaction. Yes, more important than having good relationships with friends or family (of the human variety); more important than whether you have any life-threatening disease; certainly more important than how wealthy you are.

At the same time, many folk buy into the "deserving" vs. "undeserving" dichotomy when it comes to things like health care. Some feel that if you smoke heavily, or are an alcholic or drug addict, or otherwise engage in high-risk or self-destructive behaviour, you should pay higher health care premiums than if you do not do these things. Of course, private insurance agents do typically charge more in premiums for people in some of these categories. And don't get me started on some of this country's policies with respect to immigrants.

So given that pet ownership has such a positive effect on a person's mental health - in itself a benefit to society as a whole, before you even begin to factor in the reduction in the number of unwanted animals - would it not in a way make sense to offer lower insurance rates to people who have pets? Maybe even government-funded medicare should be extended to our four-legged friends? Perhaps it should be a violation of the human rights code for a landlord to refuse to rent to a pet-owner, for public and inter-city transit vehicles to disallow pets on board or for business-owners to refuse entry to people who arrive with their pets. Don't laugh - it's already become a human rights issue to disallow guide-dogs for the blind in such situations so if we're talking allergies here, it's just as possible to be allergic to a guide-dog as it is to some other kind of dog!

Part of the resistance to labelling pet ownership a "right" may be the way people tend to feel that "right" is the opposite of, say, "responsibility", or "privilege". And it ain't necessarily so. Pet ownership is DEFINITELY a responsibility. I'm not suggesting for one moment that someone who is unable or unwilling to properly look after an animal, or who (for example) has a somewhat erratic or itinerant lifestyle,
or whose environment is unsuitable (e.g. living in a small apartment with a large dog which needs lots of exercise), should embark upon inappropriate pet ownership. On the other hand, I'm not so sure financial considerations alone should necessarily preclude pet ownership. (For example, the Public Citizen in today's Ottawa Citizen dealt with a woman who had agreed to have her cat picked up by the Ottawa Humane Society for some urgent medical attention - if the OHS does decide to proceed with the treatment as opposed to euthanasia, the woman will not be allowed to have the cat back, even though it seems she has done nothing wrong and the cat is something of a lifeline for the housebound owner; it's all making me seriously reconsider my membership in and future donations to the OHS.)

As for "privilege", I'm also well aware that it's definitely a privilege to earn the affection and trust of a companion animal - something that can at times be an up-hill struggle, even for the most kindly and attentive of pet-owners.

As modern medicine becomes more sophisticated, it make sense to devote more time and energy to PREVENTATIVE measures rather than simply after-the-fact fancy pharmaceuticals and technologies. I say, let's start looking at pet ownership as proactive health care!

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